"Women, Can We Do Better?"

5/11/26

As we celebrated Mother’s Day yesterday, reflected on Women’s History Month in March, and as many continue honoring Women this month, I found myself in a place of deep reflection. I thought about my mother, who passed away when I was only ten years old, and how God’s grace covered me through the love of my grandparents and a large family structure. When I hear stories of women who grew up in dysfunctional homes without support, I realize even more how God protected me and placed people in my life who helped shape me with love and care.

I was the youngest of five brothers and one sister. Growing up, I was known as the kind and quiet one, while my sister was the outspoken one. Most people simply knew me as “her sister.” Even after giving my life to the Lord, I never desired to be out front. Yet God, through calling and obedience, pulled me into spaces I never would have chosen on my own. Ministry was never about attention for me—it was always about obedience.

When I began ministering to women, my heart was pure. I genuinely wanted to encourage, uplift, and help women heal and become all God created them to be. There was no hidden agenda, no competition, and no desire to be above anyone. I simply wanted to love people from a sincere place.

But over the years, I also learned something painful: sometimes the same hands you lift will act as though you don’t exist. Some people you genuinely support will distance themselves, ghost you without explanation, or even mishandle your heart. And while those moments can hurt, they also teach discernment. They teach you that access is sacred.

Yesterday, as I reflected on friendships from high school, college, and throughout my salvation journey, I realized something important. There is not one woman I can honestly say I hate, envy, or compete with. When I see women succeeding, especially women I admire, I celebrate them because I know life has not been easy for any of us. I know the strength it takes to survive, heal, rebuild, and keep going.

Some relationships remained strong over the years, while others quietly faded away. Some people left without conversation or closure. Others entered my life for a season and brought new lessons and blessings. But through it all, God showed me the importance of keeping my spirit in the right posture.

I want to leave people better than I found them. I want my life to reflect kindness, integrity, and genuine care. I want women to know they can succeed without comparison, competition, jealousy, or envy. We can truly support one another. We can hold each other up instead of tearing each other down.

As women of God, can we do better? Can we truly celebrate one another? Can we pray for the women we secretly struggle to understand? Can we support those God has called us to walk beside instead of competing with them?

Because at the end of the day, the Kingdom is not built through comparison—it is built through love, unity, humility, and purpose.

Sometimes the greatest healing begins when women choose to genuinely care for one another again. ❤️